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And it was sweet

In High school English, our teacher had us read dozens of Indian Animal Parables. You have probably heard the one about the blind men and the elephant. That’s a classic. There is another one I’ve always remembered that was more meaningful to me. It goes:

A man was walking in the wilderness and realized he was being stalked by a tiger. He was near a cliff with a vine hanging down to the ground, so he starting climbing down the vine, knowing the tiger could not follow. He was about halfway down with the tiger staring at him hungrily when a lion at the bottom of the cliff noticed him. The man was trapped dangling on the vine, a lion below and a tiger above. Two mice, one black and one white, started to crew through the vine above him. There was nothing else for him to hang onto. It was then that he noticed a strawberry plant growing on the cliff with one ripe strawberry on it. The man picked it and ate it and it was sweet.

Yes. That is the end of the parable. We leave the man hanging from a cliff over a lion with strawberry juice dripping down his chin. I always assumed he died shortly after the story ends but that isn’t the point of the parable. The man, even in the midst of a calamity not of his own making took the time to stop and enjoy that which was sweet. The strawberry was probably even sweeter to him knowing the doom that awaited him. While we may not find ourselves dangling from a vine with two predatory cats looking to make a meal out of us, at least not twice, we all find ourselves obligated to times and places we don’t want to be and doing things we don’t want to do. We should pull as much joy, learning and growth from those situations as we can.

I told this parable to my class the other day. My course (marketing foundations) is a required course and the majority of students aren’t marketing majors. If it were up to them, they wouldn’t take ANY marketing classes. Unfortunately for them, it is required. While I try to make it as interesting and valuable for them, I encourage them to taste the strawberry while they are there.

Happy birthday to me

Today is my birthday.  45 years old today.  My business, Wolski Success Partners – a Business/Life Coaching business, is less than 6 months old.  It  is a young but growing business where I have been able to help people Live More.  Laugh More.  Earn More.

The best gift you could give me is to let me help you reach your next goal.  Let me help you focus on you.

If you are living your life to your fullest already or simply aren’t ready to step up to the challenge, the next best gift you could give me is to spread the word about my business.  You can do that by liking, sharing, commenting or reposting on any of my blog posts.

Nice your way to health, wealth and happiness

Am I saying that being nice will lead to health, wealth and happiness?  Well, no.  I’m not saying it.  Science is.

Dr. Hamilton sums up The Five Side Effects of Kindness here: http://drdavidhamilton.com/the-5-side-effects-of-kindness/

He claims the five side effects are that we are:

1.) We are happier: This isn’t simply at a feel good level.  It gets physical.  Studies show that doing acts of kindness raises our levels of endogenous opioids.  If “endogenous opioids” doesn’t mean too much to you, let’s just say these are the natural versions of morphine and heroin produced by your brain.  These opioids lead to elevated levels of dopamine which causes a natural high.

2.) Healthier hearts: This isn’t the paper cutout type heart either.  Acts of kindness actually release oxytocin.  This starts a process that leads to expanding blood vessels, lowering blood pressure.  Sure time on the treadmill helps but helping that little old lady cross the road helps as well.

3.) Slows aging:  Oxytocin also lowers levels of free radicals and inflammation, two factors that lead to aging.  What would you rather do, a kind deed or eat a cup of kale?  Compared to kale, putting out a little extra effort to be kind doesn’t seem so bad after all.

4.) Improves relationships: Well duh.  Being kind to people improves your relationship with them.  When relationships are stronger, people work harder for each other and they are more productive.  People also go out of their way to promote kind people.  From my own life, I can testify to this.  A co-worker and I were presenting to our boss’s boss.  The co-worker and I got along but didn’t normally associate with each other.  I went out of my way to be sure that our boss’s boss understood how hard my co-worker was and how important his efforts were to my successes.  At our next several meetings, my co-worker went out of his way to make sure the executives understood that MY EFFORTS were important part of his successes.

5.) It is contagious: People are more kind when they witness kindness.  Kindness does pay forward.  Acts both small and large cause others to be kind.  Those people do acts of kindness to others and so on and so on.

It is important to do these acts of kindness simply for the act of kindness.  Don’t expect others to pay you back.  Don’t expect recognition.  Simply be nice, feel good and let kindness work for you.

So what acts of kindness have you done recently?  How did it make you feel?

Bumpy Life

Imagine your life rides on a cart with one wheel.  Each of the spokes on the wheel is a different aspect of your life; health, wealth, career, family & friends, spiritual connection, love/romance, etc.  The length of each spoke is determined by how satisfied and fulfilled you are with that aspect.  If each spoke is approximately the same length, then the wheel will turn smoothly and the cart will ride smoothly down even a bumpy road.  This cart will be easy to push and steer.  It is easy ride around potholes or ride right over a pot hole if you didn’t see it in time.

Now imagine that the spokes are of very different lengths.  One may be very long and several very short.  This is a very bumpy Even on a smooth road, the cart is going to bounce around.  It is hard to push and hard to steer.  It is difficult to avoid potholes with a bumpy wheel.

Additionally, moving from a spoke that is short to a spoke that is long requires so much additional effort.  For example, even if your career is going strong, it requires more effort to maintain that level of success when your love & romance spoke is short.

Making your spokes, your satisfaction with each aspect of your life, similar length with make your life run more smoothly.  It will make those strong aspects of your life easier to  maintain and enjoy.  It will allow you to avoid or better handle surprises that are outside of your control.  Focus on making your shorter spokes more equal to your more successful spokes to make your total life more fulfilling, enjoyable and energized.

List out each aspect of your life that is important to you.  Common aspects people list are listed above; health, wealth, career, family & friends, spiritual connection and love & romance.  On a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is totally satisfied, rate each aspect and write it down.  Which aspect is the shortest?  This is where you need to focus your healing and productive energies.  Give this aspect your time and attention now.  This will make all aspects of your life more enjoyable and successful.